The difference between self-esteem, selfishness and self-acceptance
The emotional is what we miss most. This ability to be a good person, to take better care of oneself, has been neglected during the competitive patriarchal culture.
To cultivate volunteering, caring and collaborative qualities, referred to as feminine and maternal, other elements are needed for them to be expressed.
You can't love without loving yourself. We have become used to depreciating ourselves. People don't know the difference between self-esteem and selfishness.
What is selfishness?
It seems that being selfish is loving yourself. But self-esteem is a good thing. It means loving this inner creature that we are.
Selfishness is a compensation for self-esteem. It's like saying “I'm here! I want this or that!”. It is like a claim to the inner emptiness of the person. Want to feel more (than you are). Narcissism is the same thing. Self-esteem is a substitute for the feeling of “I am”, to feel like a person, to feel the satisfaction of being. Love cannot exist without being accompanied by helping the person to find and love oneself, to treat oneself well, to know one's desires and to be in harmony with one's desires.
What is self-esteem?
Let's talk about what self-esteem means, because it doesn't imply the same thing for everyone, especially the difference between self-esteem and self-acceptance.
Understanding this distinction helps you to see where to look and shows you how they work in tandem.
Self-esteem is the intentional understanding of your truth - which includes your personality, needs and feelings - and then seeking lasting and fulfilling ways to live in accordance with it.
You can't do it if you reject or demonize who you are, what you feel and what you need. This is where self-acceptance comes into play.
What is self-acceptance?
Self-acceptance is the ability to be in the present moment of your truth without judging it as false, bad, too much or not enough.
Accepting yourself is the ability to see yourself as complete, now, and allows you to live an existence imbued with self-esteem.
Simply put, self-esteem takes care of your mind, emotions and body in a profound and holistic way, and self-acceptance is the mentality that allows this type of care.
Trying to practice self-esteem without this foundation of self-acceptance is like banging your head against a wall and wondering why you have a headache. You need both.