Primary food: having happy relationships
Having happy relationships is part of our primary food and healthy living. We now know that people with strong social ties are mentally, emotionally and physically healthier than people who are socially isolated. While happy relationships are beneficial in many ways, unhappy relationships can create stress and anxiety, which can manifest itself in different ways, such as headaches, sleep disorders, digestive disorders, etc.
Quality relationships make us happier and healthier. The relationships we have with our love partner are often central, but relationships with family and friends are just as important and essential to a good life. The way we interact with our family, colleagues and friends is a profound reflection of our inner well-being and vice versa.
What can we do to show and be more present with the people we care about or to foster new relationships with the kind of people we would like to have in our lives?
There are many ways to connect with the people around you and improve the quality of your relationships:
Explore your own feelings
Think of situations where you have felt included, where you have felt seen and understood by someone else. Think about how you felt when you were respected and appreciated. Think of the feeling of tenderness and affection that has been addressed to you. Finally, think about what it feels like to be loved and the people with whom you have had a romantic relationship in your life.
How do you feel after exploring these thoughts? How do you want others to feel? This conscious practice is an excellent way to explore the quality of your relationships and cultivate positive ones in the future.
Identify positive and negative relationships
Healthy relationships can be identified through trust, honesty, mutual respect, support, maintaining separate identities and the sense of love and tenderness they bring to us. Harmful relationships, on the other hand, involve obvious consequences such as feelings of pressure to change, as well as less clear signs such as constant anxiety towards the other person and fear of disturbing them, problems of manipulation or control or physical violence, lack of respect, lack of privacy or denial of time alone, or not making an effort to spend time together.
Sometimes we can overcome these negative aspects when both sides of the relationship want to change. At other times, we realize that it is in our interest to get out of a toxic relationship completely and that we are able to continue, knowing that we have done what was right for our own well-being and happiness. Working with a coach or talking to a close friend is a way to identify these aspects of your relationships to find actions that meet your needs.
Realize that everyone has an innate desire to be close to others
Try to spend your day with the mantra “Just like me”, as a way to understand that those who seem quite different from you really are not - they just hope to belong and feel understood, like the rest of us. Creating a warm environment to understand others will break down barriers and open the door to better communication, equality and support. The more you approach others with this attitude, the more you will receive it.
Relationships are beautiful and disordered, complicated but also sometimes very simple. No two people are alike, which means that no relationship will be either. Working on your relationships allows you to grow while offering this opportunity to someone else. In addition, it is an essential element for your health and longevity. Try these practices and notice how your relationships are beginning to evolve in a more positive direction. Remember, relationships are an integral part of your primary food.